These Boots Are Made For Walking

There is nothing like a nice pointed over the knee boot to get in you in  “dress up mode”.  I have always had a knack for finding cute items and trying to make it look expensive lol. A lot of my ideas come from Pintrest. I find styles and looks that I like and then go out and try to find inexpensive replicas.

To achieve this look I took light pink ruffle sweater I found a local store here in Houston called Trend Mall; it cost me roughly $20.00 and paired it with a inexpensive black pencil skirt I had tucked away in my closet. To add that winter “warm look” I put on a pair of camel colored over the knee boots I purchased on a clearance rack about 3 or 4 years ago. I never really had a chance to wear these boots until now because I didn’t know what to do with them. They were really a treasure hidden in the depths of my closet lol. 

Overall, you could pull this look off and still come in under a $100.00 if you take your time and find sales. Don’t rush at the first thing you see ladies, take your time and shop around a bit. Trends and hot fads for the “moment” die down and later you are stuck with clothes that no one is wearing anymore. (We all know that’s the worst…smh). The key to shopping getting timeless pieces that you can wear season after season.

Happy Shopping Ladies

Find The Look:

Pencil Skirt Here or Here

Boots Here or Here

Ruffle Sweater Here or Here

 

2 Things That Blindside Me About Marriage

Marriage is a beautiful thing!!! It is a union ordained by God and one he takes very seriously. If you have listened to our podcast you have probably heard me talking about the hardships of marriage and the many trials and tribulations that I personally have been through in my own marriage. I don’t mean to run anyone off or have them apprehensive about marriage but I feel people need to know the truth. If they did and were prepared for it maybe Americas divorce rate wouldn’t be at 50%. So let,s get into the numbers; the average marriage in America last only 8 years, the average age for couples to go through a divorce is 30 years old, 70 percent of women cheat and 72 percent of men cheat or have affairs, living together before getting married increases your divorce rate by 40 percent. Also; your age, education level, state you live in, race, whether or not you have children all play a role in your lovely union that God wants you to keep together. Whew!! Jesus take the wheel! With all that against you (and so much more) how do you prepare or react when the unexpected happens? Here I talk about two things that threw me off guard and how I reacted to each one.

Me Time

Oh those wonderful long baths, those split second decisions to do what I wanted when I wanted and how I wanted slowly dwindle to a “Uh let me check my schedule”. When you get married you have to pencil in your me time and understand how it will affect your family. For example, if I want a massage, I will think about it for at least a month before I finally decide. Im thinking about the money, the time, the scheduling, childcare all of these factors now have to go into this once simple decision. I mean sweating bullets, lol. Not really but close to it. I responded to this sudden lack of me time by realizing I NEED IT. No, you can’t have as much but that doesn’t mean cut it out completely. It’s not selfish if you leave for a while to get your mind right and is actually very healthy for your family. I had to communicate to my husband that I needed me time because of course they can not read our minds. Sometimes they may be oblivious to how much you actually do for the family that you may have to bring it to their attention. Whether they agree or disagree you have put out in the atmosphere how much you give others into comparison of how much you give yourself. Let it be known, If I don’t get out of here now, all my screws will be loose and be prepared to bring the pastor in for a deep holy purging because I am on the edge at this very moment. Not as dramatic, but for the sake of your marriage and sanity please take and enjoy any time that you may have. Even if it is in the car and you take the long way home on purpose.

Sex

Alrighty lets get into the good stuff. Children can kill your sex life, just being honest. It did for me. I saw it as my husband can fend for himself but this new baby can’t. So naturally all my time went into the kids not to mention those lovely new family members called bills and jobs with benefits. In college it seemed like doing it three times a day everyday or every other day was an easy feat. I mean acrobatic about it, not a hair would be out of place, make up flawless, I showed up ready to go. My husband (before he was my husband #preJesusdays) would get annoyed at me because I would come to his dorm dressed to the nines at 1am and I wouldn’t come relaxed or casual aka pajama wear. But oh how the tables have turned, the dreaded lazy side booty, half sleep, aunt Jemima bonnet, unshaved in multiple areas Christina has reared its ugly head. However convenient this new person is its not the healthiest and could do harm if it becomes a normalcy. One day I complained to a co-worker of how long and unfair my duties as a wife were. Here is how the conversation went: “ Look…I get up, get myself ready and half way decent, get both kids ready, make breakfast, make lunches, go to work, deal with these hellish kids everyday for eight hours, not to mention dealing with the people you work with, get off, go to the gym so my body will be half way right, go home make dinner, clean up (hardest part for me), wash clothes, do dishes, bathe, get my Lord and savior Jesus Christ his time and on top of that you have to give him a standing ovation performance in the bedroom, it’s too much!!!” Her response, “ And you have to do it.” Ughhh, you could have mopped me up off the floor at that very moment but I knew she was telling the truth. As a wife your responsibilities double if not triple and you can not neglect your love life. So how I responded to this conflict is one, I started scheduling early “sessions” and utilized the lock on the door and a thing called Netflix for the kids. For me, not being tired and being at the peak of my day allows me to be more involved sexually. I also started getting “pretty” or “done up” for me. I got to a place where I was tired of seeing myself busted all the time so I would dress nice and do my makeup to satisfy me but the effects carried over to my husband. Also, you have to get creative, in God eyes the bedroom is undefiled between a MARRIED couple, emphases on married because if you giving it up without a commitment then your bedroom looks like the worse alley in NYC. There are so many factors you can change up in your love life to spice it up that it is sure to keep things interesting, but I’ll save that for another post.

 

All in all how you respond to conflict in your relationship is one of the most important factors to a healthy marriage, because conflict is guaranteed to arise. If not now, later, if not you, him. It could be dealing with money now or dealing with death later. Just be prepared to respond and think about healthy responses to different issues. And if all else fails go back to your foundation and that fact that your marriage is built on a promise by God, and if you are equally yoked and your marriage was ordained coming to a healthy conclusion is possible.

I hope and pray that you were blessed through this post. Please feel free to leave comments or ask questions down below. Love you all!!!

Mauve Moments In Winter

What do you do with all the crop tops and skirts you’ve accumulated over the summer but now its too cold to wear them? To heck with it, throw on some stockings and call it “Hello December!!!” We find that putting stockings underneath shorter (not so holy) items makes them Jesus approved!!! YES!!! Just Kidding…:) But don’t store those skirts and cropped tops just yet. Here, Christina has paired a striped circle skirt with traditional black stockings and a cropped quarter sleeve sweater. To finish it off she added some closed toed mauve shoes that wrap around the ankle. And whooooooo’s shoes were only $9? (^o^) *crickets* OH YEA, ain’t nobody got time for high dolla, wear only once, my feet need an Epsom salt soak type of shoe *blows raspberry*. We are ALL about the bargains here, trust and believe. This look is great for church, meeting parents for the first time or a Sunday brunch with your girls. You can change up the look and go more daring with fish net/embellished stockings or pair it with a long sleeve bodysuit, the choices are numerous! Love you guys! New fashion post coming soon!
~Krystal and Christina~

SEEN ON CHRISTINA
Mauve and White Circle Skirt – Bought at Ross
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Cropped Black Sweater- Bought at Target Years ago lol
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Mauve Heels – Just In Fashions
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Memories Of A Haunted Christmas

I was a little hesitant about writing this post but I am going to go ahead and share it. This morning I spent time with the Lord, did some journaling, and I broke down crying because I was reflecting on where I was this time last year.

This time last year was one of the lowest moments of my life. I had no money, no food, had an eviction notice that was laying on my kitchen counter, and had a car in the parking garage that had a note that was 70 days past due. I was four classes away from finishing graduate school but I had to sit out because I had failed a class and I didn’t have the money to pay to retake it.  ALL my relationships (family, friends, etc.) were in a bind and to be frank I really didn’t see the purpose of living anymore.  Yes, I was on the verge of committing suicide.

I had never been so low in my life. Nothing was working for me, I couldn’t get a job, all of the charities and places that help were out of funds for the fiscal year. I had called over 30 places in Houston to help me keep my lights on and to help pay my rent for the month but no one had it.  To make matters worse Christmas was a day away and I had NOTHING to take to my family, I barely had enough gas in car to make to their homes.

Last year was the first year I had to walk into my family’s homes gift less, food less, hopeless, depressed, embarrassed, and broken.  I was so ashamed and afraid; I was the daughter, niece, grandchild that usually had her life in order but not last year.  I remember going to my mom’s house and I was too embarrassed to even eat because I didn’t feel like I was worthy enough. I remember my mom grabbing me and holding me in her arms as I bawled for 20 mins straight. It was the worst feeling in the world to be in front of my mom and have nothing to offer her but tears and guilt.

(Picture from last year)

No one in my family judged me or said anything to bring up my dim situation but I could feel their “worry” for me.  No one asked, “are you okay?”, they just gave me reassuring hugs and subtly slipped money in my purse when I wasn’t around. No matter what I had or “didn’t have”, my family never made me feel less than. (That was a pure blessing).

Not sure why God wanted me to write this or share this but I decided that I was going to be obedient. I asked him why he wanted me to share such a humiliating moment of my life with the world and he told me that it wasn’t for me, it was for him.

I don’t know who this is for or who has been through something remotely similar but I am here to tell you everything is going to be okay, I promise.

Right now, it looks dim and your trying to figure out how you are going to make it until tomorrow but I am here to tell you that God sees you, he hears you, and he is not going to let you go. Everything you are feeling right now is to make you a stronger fighter! After this you will be able to with stand just about anything that comes your way.

This morning I was able to get up and write this so you know what that means? I am alive and doing well today, I made it! Despite all the hell I went through, I made it!  God kept me. My bills are all paid up, I kept my car, I kept my home, I now have an amazing job, I graduated with my master’s degree a couple of months ago, not only am I on my feet but I’m running.  If he did it for me, he is going to do it for you.

Remember, after every storm comes a rainbow.

I love you and most importantly God loves you.

Sincerely,

Krystal